Ob ihr wollt oder nicht (2009)
The film starts with the main character Laura, a young woman with advanced cancer, entering quite upset the home of her parents and claiming to have stopped chemo therapy and having left her husband. The worried parents call the other three adult daughters into the house and they arrive one by one. For the first time in 6 years the entire family is united again. The characters are drawn as tensions rise from old conflicts and as the situation sinks in that Laura might be terminally ill. The movie eventually shifts from a lively sometimes comical beginning into the serious theme of dying and does handle this quite tactfully and moving. While the film touches on many areas surrounding death (including religion, graveyard, care, eutanasia) the main focus is on the transformation of the characters that are thrown out of their busy lifes into this situation, eventually accepting it and dealing with it.
Director: Ben Verbong
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Christiane Paul as Susa |
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Senta Berger as Dorothea |
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Katharina M. Schubert as Laura |
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Anna Böger as Coco |
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Jan-Gregor Kremp as Peter |
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Julia-Maria Köhler as Toni Brühl |
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Jan Decleir as Henning Brühl |
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Mark Waschke as Paul |
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Kilian Schüler as Zach |
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Nina Siebertz as Ada |
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Huub Stapel as Vater Dietz |
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Uwe Rohde as Friedhofswärter Hinrichsen |
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Therese Hämer as Ärztin |
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Andreas Meier as Barmann |
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Hans-Jürgen Ploenes as Paketbote |
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Fernand Delosch as Harry |
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Jamie Bick as Katharina |
| Directing | Ben Verbong | Director |
| Writing | Karin Howard | Writer |
| Writing | Katja Kittendorf | Writer |
| Editing | Menno Boerema | Editor |
| Camera | Theo Bierkens | Director of Photography |